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Title: Creating Spiritual Connections
Subtitle: Linking Psychology with Theology
Author(s): PERRYMAN, Jane , PERRYMAN, Charles
Journal: Marriage, Families & Spirituality
Volume: 19 Issue: 2 Date: 2013
The official teaching of the Magisterium is mainly couched in an esoteric language that is far removed from the dialogue of the vast majority of lay people. Furthermore it does not begin to address the key question for married couples of 'How do we live the life to which we are called?' The answer to this question should form the basis for a coherent pastoral strategy for supporting marriage. We present this paper from the perspective of having worked in a ministry with engaged and married couples for many years. The beginnings of the answer to the 'How?' question is to be found in the recent research of social psychologists. We show, in outline, that this research is consistent with the Christian understanding of marriage. We demonstrate that the communication of feelings between the couple is the most important feature in the strengthening and maintenance of their emotional bond. Listening at a deep level and forgiveness are the two key marital virtues that couples need to cultivate in order to enhance their bond. We show that the approach that we describe is consistent with the covenant view of marriage but we note that the exploration of marriage as a covenant has not been seriously developed since its formulation at Vatican II.